It is absolutely alarming how many people think what should sustain a relationship is intimacy and sex. In the course of my work with young people and in relationship conferences and meetings, I encounter (especially ladies) who get really offended that guys leave them after they have given them their all. They say they have been faithful and have not denied them anything. Pressed further in some cases, most of these ladies say they have given their guys sex and in spite of that, they wondered why such men left them. In their reckoning, what else do men want besides sex? And why should a guy leave a girl who has offered him sex in free quantum as much as .
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that? Powerful thoughts but the truth is simple: Sex Cannot Sustain any Relationship.
Relationships that work is founded on a sound principle which is not narrowed down to feelings and emotions. When I refer to relationship in this context, it also involves marriages. No marriage can survive on the singular leg of sex, emotions and feelings. There are so many real issues couples must seat down to address and agree upon for their relationship to be called successful.
Two people desiring to have a romantic partnership at any level must start with how compatible they are in their belief system – faith. If people cannot agree on the mode of worship, they can barely agree on any other area. Most people who are faith-inclined build the other areas of their lives around their beliefs. Do the two of you belief in the same God and mode of worship? That should be the starting point.
There is absolutely no reason why a lady, for instance should think that by offering her body to a man, she is laying claim to him as her man. If it were so, then no lady would be a sex worker. All the men they slept with would have married them. As a matter of fact, sex should be the last thing on the mind of those who seek successful relationships. It should be the crowning matter after all else have been settled and this should happen after the two are married. Pre-marital sex have so many damning consequences.
It is always the right thing to do if sex is the last thing on your minds as partners. This cannot be emphasized enough. Why sleep with someone who you barely know? Most people are blinded by emotions so much they allow their reasoning power to go to sleep. When the excitement of sex dies down, people, especially men would always apply their reasoning power and when they know they cannot cope with you in other areas, they leave. At that point, as a lady, you might start wondering why that happened. It happened because you left your reason at home and opened your legs before thinking. Please note that a lot of men who have not fear of God are predators, fling-seekers and crude womanizers. Beware!
Bring your head and your heart to work.